In the Dalai Lama’s Instructions for Life, Rule 3 is as follows:
Follow the three R’s:
Respect for self
Respect for others and
Responsibility for all your actions
I have struggled with this entry, hence the long stretch in the series. On the one hand, it is monumentally simple and self-explanatory. Even non-religious people should be able to see the benefits of making this rule a part of their lives. On the other hand, it feels too simple. I feel as though I should much more to say about this. His Holiness is not saying you have agree with everything everyone says or does. He’s not saying you have to love your neighbor. –I could get into all the different definitions of love, and even pinpoint for you the exact type of love to which I think Jesus is referring, but that’s for another post.– He is simply saying to respect the people around you. Respect that their outlook on life is different, or similar, to yours. Respect that they know what is right for them in that moment. Respect that they are autonomous human beings. It’s not hard.
The hard part comes in taking responsibility. It’s scary being an autonomous human being. It’s scary being an adult. But own up to your mistakes. Own up to your triumphs. Take care of yourself and your bills and your pets and your space. Understand that your actions may be hurtful to others. That is inevitable. Be sincere in your explanations and apologies. Move on when necessary.